Hypnotherapy for change

It had been raining for days and days, and a great flood had come over the land. The waters rose so high that one man was forced to climb onto the roof of his house.
As the waters rose higher and higher, a man in a rowing boat appeared, and told him to get in. “No,” replied the man on the roof. “I have faith in the Lord; the Lord will save me.” So the man in the rowing boat went away. The man on the roof prayed for God to save him.

The waters rose higher and higher, and suddenly a speedboat appeared. “Climb in!” shouted a man in the boat. “No,” replied the man on the roof. “I have faith in the Lord; the Lord will save me.” So the man in the speedboat went away. The man on the roof prayed for God to save him.

The waters continued to rise. A helicopter appeared and over the loudspeaker, the pilot announced he would lower a rope to the man on the roof. “No,” replied the man on the roof. “I have faith in the Lord; the Lord will save me.” So the helicopter went away. The man on the roof prayed for God to save him.

The waters rose higher and higher, and eventually they rose so high that the man on the roof was washed away, and alas, the poor man drowned.

Upon arriving in heaven, the man marched straight over to God. “Heavenly Father,” he said, “I had faith in you… I prayed to you to save me, and yet you did nothing. Why?” God gave him a puzzled look, and replied “I sent you two boats and a helicopter, what more did you expect?”

This is a wonderful metaphor for what happens with a limited mindset!WE have learned a slightly distorted view of the world, we establish coping habits and self medicate with food drink tobacco drugs gambling sex. And yet there is so much more out there.

It doesn’t have to be about God – that can also be a symbol in this story for help that is out there that we don’t explore thinking that: “this is it!” Well that doesn’t have to be it!

Explore with me how Hypnotherapy and NLP can help you move beyond coping habits and challenge that old mindset that says another Life isn’t possible and make your own future.

Talk to me, Graham Howes, for FREE to explore in confidence, and with no obligation, how I might help you. 07875720623 01473 879561 Skype: grahamhowes1

Graham Howes Advanced Hypnotherapist and NLP, Weight Loss Certified Professional, Qualified to deal with Psychological Trauma and PTSD

The Top 5 Misconceptions about Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis

5 Hypnosis Myths Explained in relation to Hypnotherapy 

Hypnosis has been around for most of our time as humans in some way or other. The Shaman would use Trance for Healing and Instruction. Greeks and Egyptians had versions of Dream Temples of Healing involving something very like hypnotic trance.

In the last few hundred years our understanding of trance and hypnotic techniques and applications of hypnosis for therapy have increased. Despite this many people still think some pretty strange things about hypnosis.


Here are my top five things that people have got wrong about hypnosis….

Hypnosis Myth Number One: All Hypnosis Is The Same

There is a huge variety in the different styles and techniques that come under the banner of hypnosis. You could see two different hypnotherapists for the same issue and they may take completely different approaches to your issue:

The two main approaches when using hypnosis are ‘authoritarian’ and ‘permissive’ –

Authoritarian hypnotic techniques are direct and instructive and are not for everyone – not everyone wants to be told what to do.

Permissive hypnosis is subtle and works with the client to find a way forward utilising the clients own ability to see their issue in a new light. We work to find strategies to change the script!

Hypnosis Myth Number Two: Subliminal Messages Work While I Am Asleep

This misconception has lingered for a while, not just in the field of hypnotherapy but also in advertising. By definition you are unaware of subliminal messages. If you do become aware of them then it isn’t subliminal.

If this method did work then if you fell asleep watching the news you should still know what happened in the world when you woke up. This does not happen.

However, when you are in trance you are not asleep. It may feel that way because that seems the closest thing to your experience. Quite a few clients tell me that they fall asleep and when I gently point out that they are losing weight /stopped smoking / moved beyond the issue they have to concede that something must have been happenings! Actually trance is a state of focussed awareness. When Jessica Ennis Hill is participating in a race she talks of going into the Zone. She means this state of focussed awareness similar to when you watch a film or sports event and don’t notice anything but the event that you are “lost” in. When you are in trance it is possible to hear messages and ideas without having conscious awareness of them. With this knowledge you could then find your thoughts, feelings and behaviour changing. This happens because you stop referring to the old habits and cravings and start looking at your Life in a new way.

Hypnosis Myth Number Three: Not Everyone Can Be Hypnotised

Everyone can and does go into trance, pretty much every single day. Every time you really concentrate and drift away distractions you are utilising trance. A good hypnotherapist who takes the time to find out about you as a person and who has experience and a range of skills in helping people will have a much better chance of helping someone be in a hypnotic state of mind.

There is also an element of co-operation though. If you don’t want to be hypnotised you could sit there with your eyes closed and in your head just say “No, I CANNOT be hypnotised. I’m not going to drift off, I’m not going to go into trance!” and it almost certainly won’t happen. But then what is the point in going to see a hypnotherapist if you are not willing to be hypnotised. It isn’t Mind Control and you won’t be doing the funky chicken in the therapy room! When a good hypnotherapist works with someone who wants to make an achievable change there is a great chance that change will happen.

Hypnosis Myth Number Four: You Are MADE To Go Into Trance By A Hypnotist:

“All hypnosis is self hypnosis.” You hypnotise yourself, all the time. For example when you convince yourself an injection will hurt and and imagine just how painful it will be before the event you make it much more likely to hurt. This is a sort of negative self hypnosis. A hypnotherapist will help you to go into trance but won’t make you do anything. Think of it as more of a partnership between you and your hypnotherapist.

Hypnosis Myth Number Five:

You Are Not In Control When You Are In Trance
This is a big fear of some people and can mean that they don’t ask for the help of a hypnotherapist when it could be the most appropriate and useful method of personal change. The reason they don’t ask for help is because they are afraid that they won’t be in control.

Some people worry that they will blurt out their secrets when in trance. Some people worry that they won’t like the feeling of having someone else making their decisions for them (which doesn’t happen anyway).

This kind of thinking often affects people who describe themselves as “a bit of a control freak”. The truth of the matter is that people who like to be in control actually often make the best hypnotic subjects as they know themselves, their thought and feelings in a lot of detail which means that they can provide great insight into their situation which helps the hypnotherapist find the most appropriate and effective method of help. In any case a Professional Hypnotherapist should be on a Professional Register like the GHR and regulated by the General Hypnotherapy Standards Council (GHSC). Some are also approved by the CNHC Complementary National Healthcare – a gold standard of approved practitioners.
I use Hypnotherapy with Hypnoanalysis and NLP to help you most efficiently change your life and move forward free of those habits traumas restrictions fears phobias issue.
If you have any questions about hypnosis and hypnotherapy that are not answered here or on my FAQ page please do get in touch using the details on my contact page. I am more than happy to provide a free phone call – call me and leave a message or text 07875720623 to help you make an informed and educated decision about whether hypnosis is right for you in confidence.

Graham Howes Professional Advanced Hypnotherapy and NLP in Ipswich Suffolk Colchester Essex and by Skype Worldwide – GHR Registered GHSC Regulated CNHC Approved

Tel: 07875720623


How to have a better year

How can you make 2016 a better year?

You are what you think

Janus is the Roman God of the New Year – he looks both backward and forward.

It depends how you use the past as to how your future will be

If you view the past as a terrible time and expect ore of the same then the probability is that you will get what you predict. If you use the past as a learning process and learn from past mistakes traumas and problems you will hopefully not make the same mistake and will make a new decision based on your experience.
You will look forward positively and optimistically. The more that you find success with your new positivity the more positive you will become.
Set yourself small goals at first and as you focus on succeeding you may well find that your confidence grows.
Failure is there to teach us to do things better – so if you “fail” learn from it and next time “fail better”.

Hypnotherapy and NLP combined helps you learn how to move beyond your limitations and begin to view Life in a more positive light – so the negative mindset which limits your growth – becomes a thing of the past. That is where it should be!
You can be greater than you thought – each of us has innate skills that are unique to us. So let Janus be your portal into a great Life.
I am a Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner in Ipswich Suffolk and I enjoy helping people reach their potential.

Here is an exercise that you can do:


Change your Future

Picture yourself one year from now. You have moved towards being where you dreamed that you might be. You are somewhere where you feel happy – with people that you want to be with or alone if you prefer. 

You have achieved all you wanted over the year by deciding to: “Go for it!” You have allowed no setbacks to stop you. You have taken every failure as a lesson learned. It has just redoubled your determination to succeed.

Now: What is that dream? What conditions need to be in place to achieve it? 

What REALISTIC goal do you therefore have in mind? 

“It is OK to build Castles in the air – as long as you then put foundations under them.”


Now: Go and do it! 

Happy New Year

Call me if you need help and focus: 07875720623

Email: grahamahowes@me.com

Graham Howes Advanced Hypnotherapist and NLP Ipswich Suffolk


Hypnotherapy for Weight Loss – lose weight with hypnosis in Ipswich

Weight Loss Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy in Ipswich Suffolk and Colchester Essex

Losing Weight isn’t about ‪#‎dieting‬ – it’s about why you put on the weight in the first place. I was a specialist in weight loss hypnotherapy in Harley Street and since then have been using hypnosis and NLP to help people to lose weight in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk and Colchester Essex. I was also an early adopter of the Hypno Gastric Band for obesity so have many clinical hours of experience.


How to Lose Weight

Gaining Weight

We keep hearing that we have an have an “obesity epidemic” in the UK. Some of this, as in the USA, is because of ready meals and junk food. In fact the American Health Authority calls it “junkie food” because they say that people become addicted to fat sugar and salt in high levels in the food which makes them feel good for all of half an hour! Unfortunately this has a bad impact on the waistline. It can also lead to depression, cancer, osteoarthritis, type 2 diabetes, heart trouble and more! Your knees and back don’t thank you either because for every stone overweight it is as if you were wearing a rucksack filled with fat. You try carrying a rucksack wearing a rucksack weighing even one stone and you will see what I mean!

Losing weight with dieting

The problem is that the diet industry has always known that when you stop the diet you go back to your “normal eating” – and when you do the weight piles on again! So we get the boom and bust of yoyo dieting. Quite honestly dieting is boring!

Diets tend to be starvation or exclusion diets

Starvation Diets

You are asked to cut down on calories or maybe you are allowed sins (I find calling food sinful a psychological no no!) or you eat shakes or ready meals.

Some diet ready made foods contain ground duck feathers to bulk you out or a substance like wallpaper paste that mimics fat. You may find that if they are low in fat or salt they are high in sugar or vice versa.

Starvation puts pressure on the liver and kidneys and your autonomic system makes you crave to eat more. You might have strong short term goals – such as a wedding – and you override the siren call of your hypothalamus – the governor of your appetite.

You drink diet drinks which might contain aspartame which studies show makes you hungrier and actually may cause cancer.

You get bored with the shakes or ready meals.

You crash diet to beat the weigh in.

The moment you weaken you binge and put the weight back on.

Exclusion diets

Don’t eat fish on a wet Tuesday! Eat lots of fat. Cut out carbs. Take as much fat as possible out of your diet. Fast on designated days etc etc. A nutritionist friend told me how harmful these diets can be as your poor digestive system liver and kidneys suddenly take on a huge load of one particular type of food and suddenly lacks another food group.

I suggested that I should bring in a Pineapple Diet – where you substitute fresh pineapple for one meal a day. I would talk of it’s miraculous digestive powers. I would say it was high in Bromelane a digestive enzyme. I would say it was full of fibre and bulked you out. I would tell you to watch your calories i other meals. You might do it and lose weight … until you got bored with Pineapple and it would go the way of the Grapefruit Diet!

Perhaps I would sell it to you in pill form extolling the virtues of some obscure chemical and it’s ability to break down fat.

If all this worked wouldn’t the NHS prescribe it?


Dieting Problems

The problem is that we become calorie obsessed: “I lost / gained a pound today!” It is rumoured that some weight loss counsellors get bonuses for every pound lost – hence the obsession with pounds. Frankly you can gain or lose a pound depending on what time of the day that you weigh. A pound is nothing. The overall aim is to lose weight steadily – and there will be peaks and troughs depending where you are in getting rid of fat – for instance.

If you are in a time where weight stands still or even goes up a little you get depressed and abandon the diet – it is “not working” – so you may as well comfort yourself with food.

Or maybe you feel it is all your fault?

Actually: You are fighting your body’s natural equilibrium.

Weight Management with Hypnosis

My approach is to help you manage your weight without calorie counting or any other gimmick. You learn how to use portion size control and eat a balance of fod stuffs that meet your body’s needs.

You take some exercise which you enjoy

Most importantly you address why you overeat.

Why you overeat


“The boss / customer yelled at me so I reached for my secret Chocolate Drawer!”

We tranquillise ourselves with sweets or food and binge or comfort eat.

We could however use a strategy to address the stress and also lessen the possibilities of being yelled at by someone: prioritising is one great strategy instead of eating.

The problem is that you stress eat and it makes you “feel good” for about 15 minutes and then the stress still hasn’t gone.

A little stress is a good thing – a lot can prove fatal! It is now one of the biggest killers.


“I get anxious and eating a snack makes me feel better.”

I had a client that I regressed to find out if she unconsciously understood her addiction to jelly babies. She recalled a long repressed memory of being eight years old and her Mother sitting her in a sunny garden and saying: “Never mind darling – when you have a problem eat a jelly baby and all will be well.”

Her 25 stone self thanked her Mother for that well intentioned dietary nightmare but realised that she didn’t have to address her anxieties that way.

I taught her how to diminish the anxiety and address the source of the anxiety.


“I get bored in the evening and watch TV and reward myself after a hard day with beer and snacks.”

This is a huge danger area for some people and eating late means you never really get to digest properly so the body deposits it as fat to digest later. Of course you never get to digest it later.

Boredom is a craving for company or mental stimulus – so we need to find a strategy for that … one client started making bespoke cards .. another loved reading and joined a book club and made friends … another rediscovered Art … another took up running again and is now doing half marathons .. another wrote her village history.

We also need to suggest gently that eating or drinking too much alcohol is not the best default.

There are many reasons for weight issues

I work with you using my many years of experience to find solutions to overeating or drinking too much alcohol. We work in a holistic way through the issues – so whether it is Depression, Anxiety, Stress, Boredom or anything else that causes you to tranquillise yourself with food we will find a strategy, explore nutritional alternatives, have some fun along the way, motivate you to lose weight and much more …

Hypno Gastric Band for Obesity in Ipswich and Hadleigh Suffolk and Colchester Essex

I was an early adopter of the virtual gastric band and I now offer this in Ipswich and Hadleigh in Suffolk and Colchester Essex. It works well and the course thoroughly explores with Hypnotherapy Hypnoanalysis and NLP all reasons for your weight issues and then “fits” under hypnosis the HypnoGastricBand. The Hypno Gastric Band is available now in Ipswich Suffolk. Hadleigh Suffolk on Sundays and Colchester Essex.

I offer a FREE telephone consultation with no obligation

Call or Text: 0787 5720623

Hypnosis for Weight Loss in Ipswich and Colchester

Graham Howes Hypnotherapy for Weight Loss in Ipswich Suffolk Hadleigh Suffolk and Colchester Essex

The Hard Facts about smoking and why you should stop smoking now

The Hard Facts about smoking and why you should stop smoking now

Doctors in the UK now consider smoking as “so dangerous that a smoker should stop as soon as possible”!

Smoking is a major health hazard. There is now an exhaustive body of evidence—including hundreds of epidemiological, experimental, pathological, and clinical studies—to demonstrate that smoking increases the smoker’s risk of death and illness from a wide variety of diseases. The U.S. Surgeon General has called cigarette smoking “the chief preventable cause of death in our society.” The National Institute on Drug Abuse has estimated that in the U.S. alone, smoking is responsible for approximately 350,000 deaths per year. Medical experts in the UK now consider smoking as so dangerous that their advice is to quit smoking as soon as possible.
Most smokers accept the fact that smoking is harmful, but many think of this risk as something like a game of roulette: They believe that each cigarette they smoke is like placing a bet. The “prize” is a heart attack, lung cancer, or some other disease. If your “number’ comes up, you’ve had it, but if you are “lucky” and your number never comes up, you may avoid the hazardous effects of smoking altogether and live to a ripe old age totally unaffected by your smoking habit.

This is a serious misconception. Every cigarette you smoke harms your body.

Here’s a better analogy:

Suppose you lived near a chemical plant that emitted a number of toxic wastes that had seeped into the town’s drinking water, so that every time you took a drink of water, it did a small amount of damage to your body. After you’d lived there for a few years, you might notice that you didn’t have quite as much energy as you used to. And after five or ten years, you might notice that quite a few of the townspeople seemed to be getting ill with one thing or another.

So if I gave you a glass of water with 4,000 poisons in it would you drink it?
That is how many poisons you inhale into your lungs and thence those 4,000 poisons enter into your bloodstream.

In the same way, every cigarette you smoke damages your body. The more you smoke, the greater the damage. True, there have been people who lived into their seventies and eighties even though they smoked all their lives, but unless they were either extremely light smokers or did not inhale, they almost certainly suffered substantial physical impairment as the result of their smoking while they were alive. If they had not smoked, they would in all likelihood have lived longer.

Smoking Risks—Rules of Thumb
Lung cancer risk—increases roughly 50 to 100 percent for each cigarette you smoke per day.
Heart disease risks—increases roughly 100 percent for each pack of cigarettes you smoke per day.
Switching to filter-tip cigarettes reduces the risk of lung cancer roughly 20 percent, but does not affect the risk of heart disease.
Smokers spend 27 percent more time in the hospital and more than twice as much time in intensive care units as nonsmokers.
Each cigarette costs the smoker five to twenty minutes of life.
A smoker is at twice the risk of dying before age sixty-five as a nonsmoker.

Inside a Smoker’s Body

Let’s take a look at what happens inside your body each time you light up. You may be surprised to learn how quickly tobacco smoke can produce harmful effects.

Eyes, Nose, Throat

Within a few seconds of your first puff, irritating gases (formaldehyde, ammonia, hydrogen sulphide, and others) begin to work on sensitive membranes of your eyes, nose, and throat. They make your eyes water and your nose run.
They irritate your throat. If you continue smoking, these irritating gases will eventually produce a smoker’s cough. One of the reasons many smokers prefer menthol cigarettes is that menthol is an anaesthetic that masks the smoker’s perception of this irritation.
Continued smoking produces abnormal thickening in the membranes lining your throat. This thickening is accompanied by cellular changes that have been linked to throat cancer.
Why Smokers Frequently Experience a Morning Cough
Because you haven’t smoked all night, the cilia in your bronchi, which were knocked out of action by the toxic effects of cigarette smoke the day before, begin to come to life and attempt to clear the accumulated mucus out of your air passages. This cleansing action brings up a thick yellow or yellow-green mucus, which triggers the cough reflex in the back of your throat.


From your very first puff, the smoke begins to chip away at your lung’s natural defences. Continued exposure can completely paralyze the lungs’ natural cleansing process. Your respiratory rate increases, forcing your lungs to work harder.
Irritating gases produce chemical injury to the tissues of your lungs and the airways leading to the lungs. This speeds up the production of mucus and leads to an increased tendency to cough up sputum.

This excess mucus serves as a breeding ground for a wide variety of bacteria and viruses. The makes you more susceptible to colds, flu, bronchitis, and other respiratory infections. And if you do come down with an infection, your body will be less able to fight it, because smoking impairs the ability of the white blood cells to resist invading organisms.
The lining of your bronchi begins to thicken, predisposing you to cancers of the bronchi. Most lung cancers arise in the bronchial lining.

Farther down, inside your lungs, the smoke weakens the free-roving scavenger cells that remove foreign particles from the air sacs of the lungs. Continued smoke exposure adversely affects elastin (the enzyme that keeps your lungs flexible), predisposing you to emphysema.

Many of the compounds you inhale are deposited as a layer of sticky tar on the lining of your throat and bronchi and in the delicate air sacs of your lungs. A pack-a-day smoker pours about eight ounces—the one full cup—of tar into his or her lungs each year. This tar is rich in cancer-producing chemicals, including radioactive poloniumm 210.
Experiment: Breathe in a full mouthful of smoke, but don’t inhale. Blow the smoke out through a clean white handkerchief is roughly equivalent to the amount of polluting tar and poisonous substances each puff leaves in your lungs.


From the moment smoke reaches your lungs, your heart is forced to work harder. Your pulse quickens, forcing your heart to beat an extra 10 to 25 times per minute, as many as 36,000 additional times per day.
Because of the irritating effect of nicotine and other components of tobacco smoke, your heartbeat is more likely to be irregular.
This can contribute to cardiac arrhythmia, and many other serious coronary conditions, such as heart attack. A recent Surgeon General’s report estimated that about 170,000 heart attacks each year are caused by smoking.

Blood Vessels

Your blood pressure increases by 10 to 15 percent, putting additional stress on your heart and blood vessels, increasing your risk of heart attack and stroke.
Smoking increases your risk of vascular disease of the extremities. Severe cases may require amputation. This condition can produce pain and can increase your risk of blood clots in the lungs.


Smoking constricts the blood vessels in your skin, decreasing the delivery of life-giving oxygen to this vital organ. As the result of this decrease in blood flow, a smoker’s skin becomes more susceptible to wrinkling. This decreased blood flow can be a special problem in people who suffer from chronically cold hands and/or feet (Raynaud’s Syndrome).
Smokers are at particularly high risk for a medical syndrome called “smoker’s face,” which is characterized by deep lines around the corners of the mouth and eyes, a gauntness of facial features, a grayish appearance of the skin, and certain abnormalities of the complexion. In one study, 46 percent of long-term smokers were found to have smoker’s face.


Carbon monoxide—the colorless, odorless, deadly gas present in automobile exhaust—is present in cigarette smoke in more than 600 times the concentration considered safe in industrial plants. A smoker’s blood typically contains 4 to 15 times as much carbon monoxide as that of a nonsmoker. This carbon monoxide stays in the bloodstream for up to six hours after you stop smoking. A 1982 University of Pittsburgh health survey found that nearly 80 percent of cigarette smokers had potentially hazardous levels of carbon monoxide in their blood. Research suggests that these abnormally high carbon monoxide levels may play a major role in triggering heart attacks.
When you breathe in a lung-full of cigarette smoke, the carbon monoxide passes immediately into your blood, binding to the oxygen receptor sites and figuratively kicking the oxygen molecules out of your red blood cells. Haemoglobin that is bound to carbon monoxide is converted into carboxyhaemoglobin, and is no longer able to transport oxygen. This means that less oxygen reaches a smoker’s brain and other vital organs. Because of this added carbon monoxide load, a smoker’s red cells are also less effective in removing carbon dioxide—a waste product—from his or her body’s cells.
If you continue to smoke for several weeks, your number of red cells begins to increase, as your body responds to chronic oxygen deprivation. This condition, characterised by an abnormally high level of red blood cells, is known as smoker’s polycythemia. In addition, smoking makes your blood clot more easily. Both of these factors may increase your risk of heart attack or stroke.
Male Reproductive System
Two recent studies by Dr. Irving Goldstein and colleagues at the New England male Reproductive Health Centre, Boston University Medical School, found a possible link between smoking and erection problems. In the first study, the researchers found that among a population of 1,011 men with erection problems, 78 percent were smokers—more than twice the number of men with erection problems found in the general population.
The researches concluded that decreased potency might result from the negative effects of smoking on the blood vessels leading to the male reproductive organs.
In their second study, the researchers measured the blood flow to the penis in 120 men who had come to their clinic with erection problems. They found that decrease in blood flow was proportional to the number of cigarettes smoked.
Dr. Goldstein believes that smoking is the leading cause of impotence in the U.S. today.
In addition to diminishing potency, smoking adversely affects the fertility of male smokers by decreasing sperm count and sperm motility as well as altering sperm shape.
Female Reproductive System
Women who smoke heavily show a 43 percent decline in fertility. Women smokers are three times more likely than nonsmokers to be infertile. Women who smoke also have fewer reproductive years: They reach menopause an average of 1 ¾ years earlier than nonsmokers.
Smokers’ Bodies Get Less Oxygen
Because carbon monoxide lowers your blood oxygen carrying capacity, the blood delivers less oxygen to all the organs of the body. At the cellular level, oxygen is used to supply organs with the energy they need. Less oxygen means less energy.
In addition, more than thirty cancer-causing chemicals travel via the smoker’s bloodstream to every organ of the body. The organs most sensitive to these carcinogens are the stomach, the kidneys, the bladder, and the cervix.
Cigarette smoking also weakens the immune system by depressing antibody response and depressing cell-mediated reactions to foreign invaders. As a result, smokers are more susceptible to a variety of infections. These impairments are reversible if the smoker stops smoking.
Why Smoking makes You Less Fit
Although a smoker’s blood carries less oxygen, the nicotine in tobacco smoke increases the heart rate, requiring more oxygen. This is why smokers become short of breath more easily than nonsmokers. The high concentration of carbon monoxide also reduces the level of oxygen that is carried to the brain. This can produce lethargy, confusion, and difficulty in thinking.
Smoking Impairs Taste and Smell
Continued smoking will also result in a loss of your senses of taste and smell. This occurs so gradually that it may go unnoticed, but the end result is the decreased sensitivity of two very important sense perceptions.


I can help you stop smoking by not only putting you off – but for longer term ensuring you address all the reasons you used smoking as a tranquilliser or stimulant or whatever other reasons drove smoking by substituting benign strategies that, in any case, lead to greater stability and security and better health.

Talk to me about smoking cessation today – the sooner you quit smoking the sooner you improve your health and wellbeing. This Holistic treatment is about a greater sense of self control and stability.

Call: 07875720623



Hypnotherapy is not about doing the funky chicken but is more chicken soup for the mind body and soul

Hypnotherapy is not about doing the funky chicken – but is more chicken soup for the mind body and soul!

Hypnosis is about more than “doing the funky chicken”:

Although after Hypnotherapy you might feel so much better that you feel like “doing the funky chicken!”

Hypnotherapy is about identifying your areas of difficulty or concern and then offering strategies to address those areas of difficulty – for instance if you are anxious or stressed finding ways to calm yourself and deal with whatever is causing your anxiety or stress. My approach uses a mixture of straightforward counselling, hypnotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnoanalysis … and what ever helps you to get to where you needs to be!

There is a lot more on my blogs and pages on this site – if you find what you are looking for – or even if you don’t – call me or email or text me for a free consultation and I will explain how I can help you.

Here is an excellent starting point http://www.hypnotherapy-colchester-ipswich.com/wp/hypnotherapy-treatments-colchester-manningtree-frinton-essex/

About Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy has been used for centuries to address issues such as Anxiety and Stress but also Pain Relief, Self Healing, healing Psychological Trauma and PTSD , ridding yourself of bad Habits like smoking or achieving Weight Management with a mindset change rather than dieting, or getting rid of Fears and Phobias.

All of these problems that we have we learn at some point or create as a coping mechanism or a reaction stays with us and becomes our default response.

But there is always a choice and Hypnosis is NOT about losing control but gaining self control using trance – which is actually something that you access every day:

When you are concentrating on your accounts and you hear and see nothing else that is a form of trance, when Jessica Ennis gets “into the zone” or a Musician “in the flow” or an Actor “in the moment” – all of these are a kind of trance. When you drive and think of something else and arrive home and you don’t recall the journey – that is trance. When you watch a great film or theatre play or read a book and get “lost in it” that is trance.

You learn with hypnotherapy how to access this natural state to make the changes that you want – with my help – I am a facilitator. I also help you find out where the issues or habits come from so we can work together to fix any problems – whether that be a habit or a terrible trauma!

What is Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP?

NLP can be quite complex to the practitioner

.. but for the client it just seems to allow them to make difficult changes to mental processes easily by doing some mental visualisation exercises and other techniques such as anchoring a desired state like calm to combat panic anxiety or stress for instance.

Very Simply put: it is a structured way of enabling you to get past unwanted habitual responses to situations and triggers.

About Hypnoanalysis

Your Unconscious or subconscious runs everything behind the scenes. When you run for a bus you don’t ask for adrenaline, your heart to beat faster or increased circulation and an alteration in breathing do you? Tou don’t ask your eyelid to blink when dust is headed towards you – it just happens. You don’t just look at an unfamiliar fish dishyou engage with a process which tracks back through your memories and finds an instance where you tried this and did not like it – so you find yourself saying: “No thanks – I don’t much like that.”

Similarly how do you know it is YOUR car or house or that I am writing English? That’s right your unconscious or subconscious processes. Why do you react in certain ways with certain stimuli: a spider terrifies you, you feel stressed so you smoke a cigarette or use a drug or eat some chocolate cake or some ice cream. We have learned these responses – some of which are habits or coping mechanisms. However there may be better ways forward that are less harmful to you or just better. We can use Hypnotherapy and NLP to empower those better happier choices – but how do we find out what triggered the habitual problematic or traumatic reeponse?

Hypnoanalysis is about putting the mind into a relaxed state and then asking your unconscious or subconscious where those triggers are and why they have to be the default? Actually they don’t! So that is why we can use this as a tool to identify the triggers and alter how you feel about them.


Graham Howes Hypnotherapy and NLP in Suffolk and Essex

Hypnotherapy and NLP in Essex and Suffolk


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Graham Howes Advanced Ex Harley Street Hypnotherapist and NLP therapist offering solutions to problems in Suffolk and Essex and by Skype

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What is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD and Treatments

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder caused by very stressful, frightening or distressing traumatic events and is often made more severe by repeated exposure to traumatic episodes.

The type of events that can cause PTSD include:

  • serious road accidents
  • violent personal assaults, such as sexual assault, mugging or robbery
  • prolonged sexual abuse, violence or severe neglect
  • witnessing violent deaths or the consequences of violent death
  • military combat
  • being held hostage
  • terrorist attacks
  • natural disasters, such as severe floods, earthquakes or tsunamis
  • medical staff paramedics police officers and armed forces are particularly at risk

PTSD can develop immediately after someone experiences a disturbing event or it can occur weeks, months or even years later.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder/ PTSD is an anxiety disorder often caused by exposure to a traumatic experience that caused physical or emotional harm. PTSD triggers symptoms of fear, dread, persistent unpleasant thoughts or memories, detachment, physical numbness, or sleep problems.

PTSD is estimated to affect about 1 in every 3 people who have a traumatic experience, but it’s not clear exactly why some people develop the condition and others don’t.

Read more about PTSD.


is an anxiety disorder in which there is a sudden rush of fear. The individual suffers from physical and cognitive symptoms typically associated with the body’s ‘flight or fight’ response. Panic attacks occur without logical reason or can be triggered by situations, locations, smells, thoughts, similar situations or places, or the actual dread itself of having a panic or anxiety attack.

People who suffer from PTSD may develop anogrophobia. Anogrophobia is the fear of being in certain places or situations in which help, comfort, or escape may be difficult to achieve upon the onset of a panic attack.

Signs and symptoms

Someone with PTSD will often relive the traumatic event through nightmares and flashbacks, and may experience feelings of isolation, irritability and guilt.

They may also have problems sleeping, such as insomnia, and find concentrating difficult.

These symptoms are often severe and persistent enough to have a significant impact on the person’s day-to-day life.

When to seek medical advice

It is normal to experience upsetting and confusing thoughts after a traumatic event, but in most people these will improve naturally over a few weeks.

You should visit your GP if you or your child are still having problems about four weeks after the traumatic experience, or if the symptoms are particularly troublesome.

If necessary, your GP can refer you to mental health specialists for further assessment and treatment or you can talk to a PTSD specialist like me FREE of charge.


How PTSD is treated

PTSD can be successfully treated, even when it develops many years after a traumatic event.

Any treatment depends on the severity of symptoms and how soon they occur after the traumatic event. Any of the following treatment options may be recommended:

Hypnotherapy is Therapeutic Tool for PTSD which has been used throughout Human History:

History of Hypnosis

Hypnotherapy is a tool that can be used to help clients overcome and manage their stress and anxiety. Hypnotherapy is known to have been used throughout human history dating back to 3000 BC in ancient Egypt. Hypnosis was used by ancient shamans, priests,and healers to access the spiritual world and induce spiritual and physical healing on the body and mind.

Hypnotherapy has gone through many transformations throughout history. Modern clinical hypnotherapy was first introduced and practiced by 18th Century Austrian Anton Mesmer. Mesmer utilized and studied the hypnotic trance for clinical healing purposes and eventually gained the nickname, “Father of Hypnosis”. His name is also the root for the term ‘mesmerism’.

Later in France a ‘fixed-gaze method’ was used to ease the pain of surgery and soon became more popular as a form of pain management.James Braid, a 19thCentury Scottish surgeon also studied the healing properties of hypnosis and coined the terms ‘hypnotism’ and ‘hypnosis’. His research led Dr. James Esdaile, a colleague of Braid, to only use hypnosis as an anesthetic for operations. Together, they studied the scientific healing powers of hypnosis.

Twentieth century French pharmacist, Eduard Coue made real headway in the study of clinical hypnosis. He discovered the use of ‘suggestions’ and ‘suggestibility’ during hypnotherapy. He developed the ‘Laws of Suggestion’ that explain how during hypnosis suggestions must be accepted by the client’s mind in order for mental and physical modification to take place. His famous suggestibility formula was, “Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.” Soon, hypnotherapy was being used more frequently in medicine. It was also used during and after war time for soldiers suffering from shellshock, pain, stress and anxiety and mental disorders.

Understanding Hypnotherapy Today:

Hypnotherapy today is used to assist in modifying a client’s behavior, perceptions, emotions and attitudes. By using verbal suggestions,the hypnotherapist helps to reinforce positive thinking, addresses conflicts and encourages mental rewiring. This rewiring helps clients to manage and modify conditions including dysfunctional habits, anxiety, stress-related illness, pain management and personal development. Hypnotherapy is a tool designed for the client’s needs.

Hypnosis should not be confused or compared to sleep. Hypnosis comes from the Greek word ‘hypnosis’ which means to ‘sleep’;however, hypnosis only imitates the actions of sleep. Hypnosis differs from sleep by the level of Alpha waves in the brain. [16]. During sleep, Alpha brain waves are very low, but when under a state of hypnosis the alpha waves are extremely high. These alpha brain waves help the client to become very focused, creative and imaginative and open to new ideas.

Everyone has experienced this hypnotic trance before. William Ray, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Penn State explains, “If you’ve ever been totally engrossed in a book, movie or song and lost all track of time or didn’t hear someone calling your name, you were experiencing a hypnotic trance.”  The creative senses are keenly focused on the task at hand while other senses are dulled or ignored. Thus, nearly everyone can be hypnotized. Anyone who can comprehend verbal direction can be hypnotized. Some people are more hypnotisable than others especially clients “who […] score high in imaginative activities. […]. [T]he best clients are those who are highly independent, intelligent and creative, not those who are malleable and submissive.”

A session typically starts with the client being asked to close their eyes and relax. Closing the eyes helps to minimize distractions allowing the client to concentrate on the words of the hypnotherapist. Then the client may be asked to relax their body from head to toe while imagining themselves somewhere else, somewhere soothing and calm. The client begins to relax by taking the suggestions of the hypnotherapist. These suggestions take them further down into a hypnotic state maneuvering past the analytical filter of the conscious mind. The goal of the hypnotherapist is to access the subconscious mind in order to modify behavior and emotions according to the client’s needs.

When the client enters the ‘trance’ of hypnosis the subconscious mind is open for suggestion without the filters and the blockades of the conscious mind. Their attention is highly focused and the client becomes more responsive to suggestions for their subconscious mind to accept.

Levels of Consciousness:

The mind has two levels of consciousness: the conscious mind and the unconscious;the filter between the two is referred to as the ‘subconscious’ mind. Cognitive neuroscientists have uncovered that “we are conscious of only about five percent of our cognitive activity, so Hypnotherapy: A Therapeutic Tool for Managing Stress and Anxiety most of our decisions, actions, emotions and behavior depend on the ninety-five percent of brain activity that goes beyond our conscious awareness.”  Another way to explain this 5 to 95 ratio of the brain’s activity is to visualize the iceberg metaphor.

The small tip of the iceberg represents the conscious mind, the 5 percent above the surface of the water that we and others can see and experience. The conscious mind is the mental activity that experiences our sense of awareness, our feeling of being awake. Or in other words, “anything that we are aware of at a given moment forms part of our consciousness.”  This state of consciousness is what we use to put on our shoes, what we feel when we step out into the rain, respond to questions in class, or think about our day and make plans for the evening. Our conscious mind is our most familiar state of awareness. The conscious mind also contains our analytical thoughts and is highly critical of the information it receives. It judges experiences to form opinions.

In terms of the iceberg metaphor,just below the waterline represents the subconscious, the state of consciousness that rests between the conscious and the unconscious. The subconscious can be thought as the ‘secretary’ that organizes our thoughts and memories and places them within reach of the conscious mind or places them securely into the depths of the unconscious mind.

Finally, the large mass of iceberg hidden beneath of the depths of the ocean represents our unconscious mind. The unconscious is a mental process that takes place without mental awareness. This is the dynamic and sometimes irrational place where we store all of our repressed memories, feelings, emotions and instincts. It influences our conscious mind’s decisions without us knowing it. The unconscious mind is responsible for making snap decisions, feeling apprehensive about something without knowing the reason, mysterious memories and emotions that may arise in dreams. The unconscious is our “thinking without thinking”.

The unconscious brain activity can be in fact traced through neurological activity in the brain. Any action or thought is created by neurons firing in our brain. This firing of electrical signals connects to other neurons creating what is called neural pathways. One can imagine this action as lightning bolts stretching, streaking and branching across a night sky during a storm. This systematic firing of neurons traveling down a specific pathway creates a neurological code. A neurological code is like connecting the dots, one point connecting to another causing people to react or respond is certain ways.

Suppose an adult man has an irrational phobia of dogs. He does not know where this fear originated. However, his unconscious mind holds a repressed memory of when he was a toddler and was bitten by a dog. When he was bitten new neurological pathways fired, connecting with neurons in his brain associated with fear and anxiety. Now as an adult, he has no conscious recollection of this experience but when he sees a dog the same neural pathway fires and he experiences fear and anxiety.

Understanding how the unconscious determines our decisions can be alarming. In his book, “Blink”, Journalist Malcolm Gladwell discusses the neuroscience of the unconscious mind and states, “[t]he realization that our actions may not be the pristine results of our high-level reasoning can shake our faith in the strength of such cherished values as free will, a capacity to choose and a sense of responsibility over those choices.” [15]. However, it is important to understand that neurological pathways can be changed. Gladwell writes that “our snap judgments and first impressions can be educated and controlled” through rewiring of our unconscious by changing the neural firing pathways. This rewiring and modification of unhealthy thoughts, mental disorders, behaviors and emotions can occur by the help of hypnotherapy.

Importance of Communication and Building Rapport during Hypnotherapy:

In order for hypnotherapy to achieve the best results, communication and rapport must be built between hypnotherapist and client. Hypnotherapy is just like any other form of therapy in the fact that it is an inmate interaction between two people who are working together toward common goals. Building rapport and having effective communication during any form of therapy makes successful treatment possible.

A lead physician and innovator in the field of psychosomatic medicines, Dr. William Saul Kroger, stresses the importance of rapport between client and hypnotherapist in his book, Clinical & Experimental Hypnosis 2ndEdition. Kroger explains how building rapport in hypnotherapy is also termed the ‘therapeutic alliance’;it is the quality of the positive interrelationship between client and hypnotherapist. (xxxiv). According to Kroger, the hypnotherapist must supply clear details about how they can help the client and how they will be guiding the client through hypnotherapy to reach their goals. It is important that the hypnotherapist“sets the stage” for problem resolution. This stage is essential for providing clear focus, objectives and demeanor of the session.

When effective, trusting communication is established the hypnotherapist and the client will have a clear picture of what the client needs and wants to achieve. Building a trusting relationship creates positive reinforcement that the therapy will be successful.

It is important that the client is not fearful. Some people believe that hypnotherapy is a form of mind control. They fear they will be in such a deep state that they cannot control what they do, thus acting in a way that would otherwise be unacceptable. However, clients are fully capable of making decisions in a hypnotic state and cannot be persuaded to do anything that is against their values or beliefs. Moreover, a client can choose to dehypnotise themselves at any time and will often ‘come out’ of the hypnotic state when the hypnotherapist leaves the room.

Suggestibility Explained:

Suggestion, according to Kroger, can be defined as the uncritical acceptance of an idea. The hypnotist attempts to influence the client’s perceptions, feelings and behavior by asking them to concentrate on ideas and images that may evoke intended effects. The hypnotherapist’s verbal communication is called ‘suggestions’. When the client follows through with the suggestions offered this is termed the client’s ‘suggestibility’.

Throughout the process of hypnosis the hypnotherapist will continue to encourage the client’s suggestibility, openness and trust in their suggestions. People believe that their actions are produced by the ‘power’ of the therapist, quite the contrary. It is the client who acts because the action suggested by the hypnotherapist is acceptable and appropriate according to their personal beliefs, values and attitudes.

Every action or thought carried out builds upon the latter and the more suggestible the client will become to the hypnotherapist’s advice. For instance, the hypnotherapist will suggest to the client, ‘Close your eyes because you are feeling relaxed and your eyes are getting heavy.’ The client closes their eyes because it is an acceptable, safe and appropriate suggestion. Next the therapist tells the client, ‘You are feeling calm and are dropping deeper into a relaxed state.’ Each safe suggestion onward will become more important and essential in the hypnotherapy process. Much like a domino effect, one suggestion after another is accepted and suggestibility grows, this is often referred to ‘hypnotic induction’. Through this process, there is a building of rapport between the client and the hypnotherapist. The suggestions acted upon will help the client become more relaxed, will open the subconscious mind, helping the client become more creative, imaginative and centered on the words and ideas suggested.

It is important to note that suggestibility in no way means persuasion and does not imply that one is inherently gullible. As previously mentioned, the best clients for hypnosis are those who are independent, intelligent and creative.

Hypnotherapy: Proactive Management for Stress and Anxiety:

PTSD and stress and anxiety are rapidly growing medical concerns and anti-anxiety and antidepressant medications are some of the most prescribed drugs in the United States.

Anti-anxiety and anti-depression drugs supply the brain with chemicals such as serotonin, in an attempt to correct chemical reactions in the brain. However, these drugs can come with adverse side effects such as suicidal thoughts, withdrawal, nausea, weight-gain, drowsiness, aches and pains. Moreover, research suggests that some of these medications have not proved to be much more effective than a placebo and people still run the risk of remission and relapse of their conditions.  A study released by the government in 2006 showed that fewer than 50 percent of people become symptom-free on antidepressants, even after trying two different medications. In addition, nearly 30 percent of clients experience remission of their anxiety and depression even when on the medication.  The risk-to-benefit ratio is sometimes in question when taking medication to treat mental disorders especially in cases involving children, the elderly, pregnant women and people with additional medical conditions.

Hypnotherapy can provide a safe alternative approach for managing stress and anxiety. The benefit of hypnotherapy is that it requires no medication and has no dangerous side effects. Hypnotherapy does not artificially supply or block chemicals in the brain but works to naturally modify the brain’s neural responses to stress and anxiety. It is a therapeutic tool that requires and encourages focus, relaxation and behavioral modification. By accessing the subconscious and moving past the analytical fears and critical self-judgments of the conscious mind, clients are able to rewire neural pathways in their brain changing their thoughts and behaviors.

Hypnotherapy focuses on the fascinating mental and physical power of the brain and its connection to the body. The brain is the body’s powerhouse, monitoring and regulating mental actions and reactions. The brain receives sensory input like vision, hearing and taste and it analyzes data and output. It allows us to walk and talk and tells us when we are angry or stressed, cold or hot or hungry. The brain controls our heart, our breathing and all other unconscious independent process like the release of essential hormones that affect mental and physical functions. Hypnotherapy uses the power of the brain to change mental and physical processes.

Another benefit of hypnotherapy for stress and anxiety management is that hypnotherapists focus on the desired results and positive rethinking by offering mental and physical strategies for managing symptoms. Each session is specifically designed to positively address the client’s needs and promote rapport between client and hypnotherapist. Hypnotherapy does not place blame or points fingers;rather it provides proactive solutions for behavioral modification.

Hypnotherapy imbeds positive rethinking in our subconscious and unconscious mind. How we respond to stress and stressful situations can be altered by the change of our mental thoughts. Neural pathways, that at one time led to the center of the brain responsible for anxiety and stress, are reverted to different pathways resulting in a feeling of ease and control.

What approaches might a Hypnotherapist take for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder?

Generally I personally use a combination of Hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming plus Hypnoanalysis to offer both a treatment and coping strategies for a variety of related situations.

I was trained by an ex Soldier who had PTSD from his service in Bosnia, Northern Ireland and the first Gulf War. He was an Army Sniper. I am based in Ipswich Suffolk and Colchester Essex and also work by Skype.

The point is to reprocess Trauma WITHOUT going into it again so that you can largely put the distressing Memories behind you and have strategies for Anxiety and Stress.

I cannot change what happened to you but I can help you to feel differently about it. Fear Anxiety Stress and PTSD get lodged in the Amygdala but can be reprocessed so that they don’t become the default response to certain stimuli.













Location of Amygdala – seat of Fight or Flight response

The process works well and to date I have no person shaped holes in the door! And yes the success rate is high with this tried and tested treatment.

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Other approaches to PTSD include CBT and EMDR which are different routes to the same outcome and work for some if not all Patients:

Psychological treatment – such as trauma-focused cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) or eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR)

Antidepressants might work well short term and for some may work well long term but there are many schools of thought that think it is important to get to the source of the trauma and reprocess the initiating trauma.

Antidepressant medication – such as paroxetine or mirtazapine

Sources: NHS and Alicia Cramer

Pick yourself up dust yourself off start all over again

Nice teacher, teach me something
I’m as awkward as a camel
That’s not the worst

My two feet haven’t met yet
But I’ll be teacher’s pet yet
‘Cause I’m gonna learn
To dance or burst

Nothing is impossible I have found
For when my chin is on the ground
I pick myself up, dust myself off
Start all over again

Don’t lose your confidence if you slip
Be grateful for a pleasant trip
And pick yourself up, dust yourself off
Start all over again

Work like a soul inspired
Till the battle of the day is won
You may be sick and tired
But you’ll be a man, my son

Will you remember the famous men
Who had to fall to rise again?
So take a deep breath
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off
Start all over again

I’ll get some self assurance
If your endurance is great
I’ll learn by easy stages
If you’re courageous and wait

To feel the strength I want to
I must hang on to your hand
Maybe by the time I’m fifty
I’ll get up and do a nifty

Nothing is impossible I have found
For when my chin is on the ground
I pick myself up, dust myself off
Start all over again

Don’t lose your confidence if you slip
Be grateful for a pleasant trip
And pick yourself up, dust yourself off
Start all over again

Work like a soul inspired
Till the battle of the day is won
You may be sick and tired
But you’ll be a man, my son

Will you remember the famous men
Who had to fall to rise again?
So take a deep breath
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off
Start all over again


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Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, SHAPIRO BERNSTEIN & CO. INC.

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Maybe now is a great time to visit a Hypnotherapist to finally get past that thing that has been holding you back or get rid of that terrible Habit/Fear/Phobia.Sometimes a Popular song just becomes a great nugget of truth! I am writing this at the beginning of 2014 and we saw the song used as brilliant counterpoint in Breaking Bad as Walt reasserted himself with some strategic murder and mayhem!

But it is a great tenet of Hypnotherapy and NLP that, as Richard Bandler, co founder of NLP, said: “the Past is over, the Future’s yet to come!” So what do we do with the Present?The Present is here to be enjoyed – again Bandler – “After all how much Pleasure can you stand!”The Past we should learn from: “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” Samuel BeckettIn other words: “Pick your self up Dust yourself off Start all over again!” – put the past behind you, learn the lessons, leave the bad thoughts and feelings behind, think differently about it – we can’t change what happened but we can change our thinking about it and how we feel.

We can forgive ourselves or others if we can or at least make peace with it – and send back stuff we have been carrying for others too. Otherwise we spend our lives crippled by inaction or pain because that person / those people / stuff we did to others or ourselves continues to haunt and blight us long after the event! You would not let me command you for twenty minutes let alone twenty years. You wouldn’t get into coping habits and endure the misery or guilt with smoking drinking or overeating would you?

We have a great self repair system if we let it! You don’t question how a paper cut heals – you become aware that you are bleeding but it soon stops, forms a clot and pretty soon is repaired. But that’s fantastic if you think about it that your unconscious or subconscious processes just do it.And we believe that the unconscious part of you – which is so good at storing everything that ever happened to you or you saw or read or experienced is a great resource of wisdom and we can add to its store of wisdom so that as it projects possible Futures and we make decisions we might make better decisions using the predictive powers of our imagination rather than being stuck in habitual decisions that we know don’t work well.

We make better decisions, view the past differently see Future events as opportunities to,learn or grow a challenge to be solved rather than a problem we give up on.In other words we pick ourselves up dust ourselves off start all over again! We keep going until we make Life better.Hypnotherapy and NLP are ways to help you achieve that process – they are about giving you more control in your Life and not brainwashing.

Make better informed decisions and be mindful of what there can be in a moment that is pleasurable or useful.Here is to a time where our diaries are full of interesting reading about what we wanted to do and did, of challenges set and met, of new confidence and liberation from fear and habit! And I bet you’ll be singing the song. Take another look at the Lyrics they are a pearl of wisdom. We all know how to dance but to do it with skill takes learning and practice.


Copyright Graham Howes and other stated authors 2014


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Mindfulness and Happiness

Mindfulness happiness and Hypnosis

Happy People

Don’t we all know some of “these” people?

They walk amongst us, usually with an ear to ear grin that spreads from the inside out. These people are like charming flowers, and we all want to breathe in their intoxicating happiness.

1503929_566989766741406_345932137_nHappy people do a lot of things, but these are 10 things happy people don’t do.

1. Happy people don’t take things for granted.

”Gratitude helps you to grow and expand; gratitude brings joy and laughter into your life and into the lives of all those around you.” ~ Eileen Caddy

So basically, happy people are awake to the goodness that is already present in their lives (and this goodness is everywhere). Whether they are rich, poor or somewhere in-between they can appreciate the miracles beyond materialism. We are all going to have a difficult time ever being happy if we don’t start by being thankful for what we already have.

One miracle that is with everyone all the time is our breath. Something we often overlook. Your breath is energy, flowing endlessly, and carrying you from then to now to tomorrow. Your breath will thread all your fears, happiness, love, and truths together. You don’t need to go buy anything; simply tune in to the miracles already present in your life.

2. Happy people don’t hold onto resentments.

“True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Happy people have learned to forgive because they know that holding onto anger leaves you at the mercy of an unpredictable and unstoppable powerful emotion. The sole intent of the mind of anger is to harm. But what ends up happening is you harm yourself and your loved ones.

It’s actually pretty simple happy people understand that they can choose emotional well-being – even when things don’t turn out the way they want.

3. Happy people don’t take things personally.

“Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Miguel Ruiz

Taking things personally is the voice of the ego. The ego desperately tries to protect itself from something it deems as dangerous or threatening. The reason we see something as dangerous or threatening is because it conflicts with our own personal projections of good or bad, right or wrong, fair or unfair. We believe that this action or speech is about us personally. Our ego reacts fast and usually unconsciously; the ego menacingly stands tall to reinforce our illusions of perfection.

Happy people recognize that most of the time these situations are just by products of other people’s dramas. When you stop taking things personally you breeze through your day with a quiet, deep sense of calm. This is a new age way of dealing with our reactions – stop trying to control situations or people, stop avoiding or defending – see it for what it is and accept that it is there.

4. Happy people don’t live in the past.

“You can’t go back to how things were. How you thought they were. All you really have is…now.” ~ Jay Asher

Have you ever noticed the impressive way that happy people seem to light up a room even amidst mundane tasks. You might wonder how they can make washing the dishes seem so enthusing.

It’s because happy people have truly mastered living in the moment. Happy people realize that the present moment, all these moments, are in fact our life. By obsessing over the past or chasing the future you miss out on these valuable moments of your life.

5. Happy people don’t seek validation from others.

“When we consistently suppress and distrust our intuitive knowingness, looking instead for authority, validation, and approval from others, we give our personal power away.” ~ Shakti Gawain

Here’s the problem: Being dependent on approval—so much so that we will sacrifice anything to get it—ruins lives. We become divorced from our authentic selves.

Happy people define themselves. Whether other people like them or not doesn’t much matter, all that matters is that they are walking the path that feels best.

6. Happy people don’t sleep in.

“Sleep is the best meditation.” ~ Dalai Lama

This might seem out of place, but it’s actually very important. Happy people are early risers. Along with being an early risers comes the time to do activities that support happiness; activities such as mediation, exercise, preparing healthy lunches and nurturing hobbies. Taking care of your body is crucial to being the happiest person you can be.

Sleep can be undervalued in our busy world, but sleep in the crutch of our moods. If you don’t have proper sleep your mental health, emotional, spiritual and physical energy will all deplete. We run the risk of turning into real life zombies.

7. Happy people don’t undermine others.

“I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him; it is what he thinks of himself. To undermine a man’s self-respect is a sin.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery

The key point here: Those who undermine other people are really afraid, shaky and insecure. The real issue is that someone else’s success signals your own failure. If you take a moment after you criticise someone, you’ll notice that you will feel a little deflated and ashamed.

Happy people help others achieve their goals, instead of putting up roadblocks which ultimately slow down everyone. They understand the value of kindness. They help others by enhancing their good points instead of pointing out their weaknesses. In the end this is a powerful way to feel good inside and others will recognize your kind energy – what you put out will come back to you.

8. Happy people don’t give up.

“Sometimes life knocks you on your ass… get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.” ~ Steve Maraboli

Everyone has self doubts, but happy people squash these doubts and keep going. They don’t blame anyone else for their successes or failures, they simply and silently keep trying. Figure out what you love and go for it.

Happy people don’t give up on their dreams and goals but what they do give up is their need to always be right, their limiting beliefs, their resistance to change and their excuses.

9. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

“Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it’s all small stuff.” ~ Richard Carlson

Life is full of big and little annoyances, often times we let these things drive us crazy. The problem is that these annoyances (like fastballs) keep coming at us, and if we let them all drive us crazy, it’s not long before we are in fact, well – crazy!

Happy people have found ways to calm down and find peace in this stress-filled life. Put things into perspective and think of your problems as potential teachers. Problems can teach you patience, emotional intelligence and mind control. When you die, your petty squabbles are going to seem really silly. Live each day as though it were your last.

10. Happy people don’t isolate themselves.

“A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down.” ~ Arnold H. Glasow

The happiest people on the planet are the ones who have deep, meaningful relationships. Loneliness is a silent killer!

Friendships an emotional outlet that is unobtainable through any other relationship but it also boosts our endorphins, results in lower levels of cortisol – a stress hormone, wards off depression, boosts self-esteem and gives us a sense of belonging and support.

“Something wonderful begins to happen with the simple realization that life, like an automobile, is driven from the inside out, not the other way around. As you focus more on becoming more peaceful with where you are, rather than focusing on where you would rather be, you begin to find peace right now, in the present. Then, as you move around, try new things, and meet new people, you carry that sense of inner peace with you. It’s absolutely true that, “Wherever you go, there you are.” ~ Richard Carlson

Reposted from Barefoot Beginnings Newsletter

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Losing Weight for the Holidays

Effective weight loss at Christmas! Holidays and special Occasions and Weddings

So many people go on diets this time of year but rapidly get fed up of dietary restrictions, calorie or point counting, shakes or tasteless replacement foods and once again the diet has gone west!

This is because you are not eating “normally”!

Your body and mind don’t like it. You go back to your “normal eating” and put the weight back on or, worse, increase weight!

You are going at it the wrong way!

We need to tackle your so called normal eating. So many people think they understand how to eat nutritionally and really don’t – the papers books and magazines are confusing and contradictory. Is Red Wine in or out this month?

I run weight loss hypnosis and the Hypno gastric band hypnotherapy courses. You will learn that a Mars Bar or sugary drink have NINE teaspoons of sugar in them – a child’s RDA is THREE teaspoons. Regular consumption of these sweets or sugary drinks can lead to type 2 diabetes and that’s just for starters. Your body doesn’t thank you for the extra weight .. It’s like I fill two rucksacks with 14 pounds of lard and tell you to put them on and RUN. your answer would be unprintable.

Take a look – it’s a different approach and many satisfied customers no longer diet.. Their normal eating is informed by “intelligent eating” and if they were obese they have the much acclaimed in the media Hypno Gastric band in place at a fraction of the cost of a real Gastric band and we have tackled WHY they overeat. Tackling your triggers leads to feeling better about yourself, letting go of limitations and harmful repressions, dealing with comfort eating, boredom, depression, bingeing and picking and nibbling, reducing stress and anxiety and boosting confidence.

Talk to me for free and in confidence to see how I can tailor a course to address your needs. My many clients have taught me the best way to help them – experience counts! And hypnotism has been around a ling time!

Available in Colchester, Essex and Sunday Clinics in Hadleigh Suffolk and in Ipswich Suffolk. I am also on Skype.

For more and a free BMI calculator see here: http://hypnotherapyinsuffolk.co.uk/hypno-gastric-band-hypnotherapy-lose-weight-hypnosis-suffolk/

Graham Howes Advanced Hypnotist Hypnotherapist and NLP

Call: 07875720623

Email: grahamahowes@me.com